Mother’s Day is one week away and I am here to help you out; or if you are a mom, and want to forward this to the men in your life, go right on ahead. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are great days to help refuel your loved one, and while flowers and brunch out are the common go to’s, make sure the way you choose to say “I love you” actually speaks to your loved ones soul. For me personally the idea of going out to brunch where my husband feels obligated to wrangle the kids in order to give me the day off, all the while everyone around us is stressed, including me as I sit in the corner watching the charade, secretly counting down the minutes until I can get home is on the bottom of my list, maybe when my kids are older. So instead of just going thru the motions, think of your mom and what she would really enjoy when you plan your day.
To figure out what your mom really wants on her day let’s breakdown Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages. Many use this in marriage but I think you can use them to your benefit to refill your mom’s bucket this next week. Let’s dive into the the love languages!
Acts of service- if your mom is someone fueled by acts of service, meaning she is especially appreciative when you serve her in some way, here are some ideas for you: wash her car inside and out, help her in her garden, spruce up her yard, get the family together to finish a house project for her, or ask her if there is a project she would like to have accomplished! If your mom receives love thru acts of service, this will feed her soul.
Words of affirmation- I learned the hard way that one of my mom’s love languages is words of affirmation. A few years ago, for her birthday, I bought her a gift that I had put a lot of thought into, but I chose to forgo the card. To me the card is unimportant, but when my mom opened her gift I could tell she was bummed out and later on that day told me it was because I did not get her a card with a note inside. Friends this was my ‘aha’ moment, my mom receives love from my words, so you better believe that I have never gone another year without showing up with a handwritten card. If this resonates with you or what you know of your mom my biggest suggestions are a handwritten note or card, the thoughtfulness will be treasured.
Quality time- if your mom is one who puts a lot of weight on the two of you spending time together than this is her love language. My guess is that most mom’s would love family time, but a mom who has quality time at her core would be one who could not fathom missing time with you on your actual birthday, and is extra happy when you have sat and chatted for awhile. If this sounds like your mom than some ideas include: family dinner you cook at her house, scheduling pedicures and lunch with just the two of you, ask her to walk the waterfront with you (or another pretty area near where you live), bike ride, hike, or inviting her to coffee. The key piece to this is time spent together and unplugged.
Physical touch- if your mom is someone who likes a good hug, or maybe a back rub this is her love language. With this love language some ideas include: a good hug, talking a walk where you lock arms, or maybe a shoulder massage.
Gifts- When people hear that someone’s love language is gifts the common thought is that they just want you to buy them something but that is all wrong. This is one of my love languages and I will tell you that one of my favorite things in my house is my tea kettle. It’s a tea kettle, but it is also stainless steel with natural wood accents and I know that when my husband bought it for me he really took time to consider what would make me smile. It’s the thought that counts in the gift, and people that receive love thru gifts feel extra special when they know that you have taken time to consider them when purchasing a gift. With that being said here are a few ideas to get you brainstorming: a book your mom mentioned once that she would like to read, an item for the house she has been eyeing, garden items she is hoping to buy, think of a project that she is working on or towards, maybe she is trying to save money buy not buying coffee out so you get that espresso machine that would allow her to make it at home, or put your kids hand prints on ANYTHING, trust me she will love it. Another idea is go in the direction of something she loves to do, ie hike, bike, travel, cook (I love the idea of new an improved kitchen supplies) or family photos.
And one final note, if you are celebrating a mom of young children listen closely, the ABSOLUTE GREATEST GIFT you can give her is a planned day at home, alone to do whatever the heck she wants ALL BY HERSELF!
I hope this helps you as plan your time with your mom and that you all have a great time celebrating over this next week!